Isn’t it true that your emotions really take a knock when your heart is aching? Sometimes it feels like the day of healing is a million miles away. The difficult time you encountered in the past can take a while to be purged from your system.
It's definitely healthy to experience a range of emotions. However, it's unwise to have the negative ones consume your existence. You're better off working towards healing the hurt. That way, you can start to experience joy and happiness again.
Emotional healing is possible if you work at repairing the source of the hurt. As you'll see, that may mean making some tough decisions:
1. Remove negative influences from your life. If you're honest with yourself, you'll realize something important. Some of the negative influences may very well be the people closest to you! It's going to be a challenge separating from them. But your emotional health is more important than maintaining those relationships.
Optimism doesn’t mean engaging in wishful or fantastic thinking. It’s a way of looking at the world that gives more control to the optimist as being at least partly responsible when life is going well. According to studies optimists have healthier outlooks and tend to live longer than their more pessimistic counterparts; they also are less susceptible to the negative effects of illness, fatigue, and depression.
Benefits of being optimistic.People who are more optimistic have better pain management, improved immune and cardiovascular function, and greater physical functioning. Optimism helps buffer the negative effects of physical illness and is associated with better health outcomes in general. Optimists tend to look for meaning in adversity, which can make them more resilient.
A study conducted by the Harvard School of Public Health found that the most optimistic women were 30 percent less likely to die from any of the serious illnesses tracked during the...
Many people, even before Covid, found themselves feeling isolated and lonely. Where as an adult do you make friends? Where do you find like minded people to hang out with? We could do a whole post just on that one topic alone.
And now… we throw in months of quarantine and everyone facing their own fears and maybe not reaching out to others as they are consumed with surviving. So now even people who had friends and a support system may not any longer.
Loneliness creeps in and with it our self value plummets as we don’t feel valued by anyone.
So how can you counteract those feelings of loneliness and isolation?
Trust is one of those things that we all talk about, but do we really know when we struggle with trust? Once identified, absolutely. So, how do we identify our trust issues?
If you are experiencing trust issues in a relationship (intimate, friend, work), you cannot make yourself vulnerable, which is essential to lasting success.
Overcoming trust issues is difficult, but not impossible. You have been hurt in the past, either in childhood or even into adulthood. Your lack of trust is held in place by fear, fear of being humiliated, betrayed, taken advantage of or manipulated in some way.
One of the reasons it is hard to let go of trust is that we go into situations with preconceived notions that we will be let down or hurt yet again. We are essentially setting ourselves up for failure, because what we look for we find.
Trust issues inevitably turn into self sabotage. When you don’t trust, you don’t connect with others. This builds a lack of self-confidence which...
Peace for everyone will be a bit different, but ideally it will be a place of comfort and relative quiet.
Finding time for ourselves is the most important first step to finding peace.
As women we often feel overwhelmed with all that we have to do. We feel we have no time for ourselves, but to be our best selves we need to find time for ourselves. To be able to continue to be there for others we need to find time to look after ourselves.
Below are 9 ways to bring more peace to your life.
1. Set boundaries for yourself.
Choose when it is a good time for you. You do not have to say yes to everything, if you struggle to say no. Start with “give me a day to think how I can fit this into my schedule” and then tell them a time that works for you.
2. Try to relax.
I know, this is much easier said than done. But, anytime you are feeling a bit anxious take some deep breaths. Slow deep breaths in and slow exhales out. This helps slow the heartbeat and lower blood pressure, and it...
Intuition operates best in a loving caring atmosphere.
1. Love and appreciate your body.
You may not yet be good at listening to your body, but your body is always listening to you.
Just like those affirmations we say to change our mindset, we also need to say them to our body. Your body hears everything you say and think about. So, what would you like your body to know?
2. Listen to your body (and do what it asks of you)
We listen to people that we love, we keep our minds on things that we love.
Learning to listen to your body clues is central to your intuitive wisdom.
Stop, breathe, and pay attention to your body. The more you do this the more you will recognize when something is different, or feels ‘off’.
3. Nourish your intuition sensitivity so you learn when you're hearing something.
Some ways you can learn to do this are:
We often hear the terms self-value (or self-worth) and self-esteem used interchangeably, but there is a very big difference between the two. To become your best self you need to have both, to build both together. Let’s take a look at what the differences are.
Self-esteem is the manner in which we evaluate ourselves. It is our internal assessment of our qualities and attributes. We have healthy self-esteem when what we think, feel, and believe about ourselves is honest and realistic. Building and maintaining healthy self-esteem depends on gathering evidence about what we are like as a person.
Self-value (aka self-worth) is the belief that you are loveable and valuable regardless of how you evaluate your traits. In this way, your self-esteem could hit rock bottom, yet you still hold onto the notion that you have innate worth. This is important. When you don’t feel good about yourself, this doesn’t mean, of course, that you are no longer valuable.
As humans we are conditioned to focus on the negative, this comes from our primitive self who in the face of saber tooth tigers needed to pay attention to the negative for survival. Unfortunately, that part of our brain is still a controlling factor and often hinders our ability to move forward in life as we do not believe in ourselves. We are quick to focus on the negative parts of ourselves whether real or not which keeps us from stepping out of our comfort zone.
We all want to feel good, and be our best selves. Carl Rogers, a psychologist, who in 1959 wrote ”a successful person is someone who experiences challenges and accepts failure and unhappiness as a part of life. They are open with others and generally have positive feelings about themselves”. “On the other hand, an unsuccessful person avoids challenges and refuses to accept the pain and unhappiness life produces. They are often defensive as a result of negative feelings about themselves, and they can't...
What is an Affirmation?
Affirmations are positive statements that can help us to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When we repeat them often, and believe in them, we can start to make positive changes.
Many think affirmations are unrealistic or “wishful thinking”, but like repetitive exercises that improve our physical health, affirmations are exercises for our minds and outlook. These positive mental repetitions can reprogram our thinking so that over time we begin to think and act differently.
Evidence suggests that affirmations can help us to perform better. According to researchers, spending just a few minutes on affirming our skills and best qualities before doing something we are nervous or anxious about, can calm our nerves, increase our confidence, and improve our chances of a successful outcome.
Affirmations have been shown to stimulate areas in our brains that make us more likely to affect changes in our health. Affirmations have...
Happiness is not a destination, it’s the journey. Sometimes life may feel like it’s getting a bit boring or mundane, you can shake that up by adding a little excitement.
Part of that journey is to live in the moment, and enjoy each step of the way. You will not be happier when you get to a certain point, whether it be losing weight, earning more money, or moving to another location. Happiness is a mindset you choose.
Being excited about your life helps you choose that mindset. Here are six ways to add excitement to your life.
Celebrate the small things,celebrate that compliment your boss finally gave you. Celebrate reaching a goal, celebrate everything. Life is so much more fun when we celebrate. It doesn’t have to be huge, maybe treat yourself to something, or use that fancy china for the bar b q tonight. Celebrate with a friend, hold a brag nite once a week and you can each brag about the things you each did.
Get Curious about things. Have you ever wondered how...