Many people feel that when they take time for themselves that they are being selfish, but it’s just not true. Self care is vital for us to continue to care for others and all our responsibilities.
How to know if you are being selfish or not? You would think we would not need to ask this question, however in this day and age it is even more important. Our culture (especially for women) is to do for others. We are expected to do it all and do it with a smile on our face. But this would be why we have so much overwhelm, anxiety and depression, because it is just not possible to do everything without also doing for ourselves.
So how do you know if you are being selfish or not?
Selfishness never brings joy, peace, or love, it creates an inner and outer experience of isolation and loneliness. It does not create an opportunity to share, nurture, or serve. Selfishness is a choice to always think only of your needs and desires.
Self-care chooses to respect your inner desires and needs in order to fulfill your potential, achieve your purpose and find joy. Sometimes this requires you to put yourself first for a while. Personal care allows for more sharing and caring, so there is plenty to offer without being exhausted or overwhelmed. Self-care allows you to serve others well because you have recognized your own value and cultivated ways to fill yourself and fill your well.
I know we have heard the analogy of the facemask on the airl=plane. Always put your own facemask on before trying to help others. We will be no good to anyone if we pass out from lack of oxygen. This is true for our whole lives, so why do we not do it? Or why do we feel guilty if we do take time for ourselves?
Self-care is about self-respect. If you respect yourself then you’ll take care of yourself. There’s a positive ripple effect from taking good care of yourself. It builds your self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence levels.
What steps can you take to start your own self care?
Self-care is not selfish and it is vital to our health and well being, what will you add to your self care routine this week?
This week’s creative exercise:
Supplies: magazines, paper or art journal, glue stick.
Optional Supplies: markers, glitter, stickers
Self-care includes acknowledging and allowing our emotions. The more we stifle our emotions, the more they grow, allow yourself to feel your emotions,let them flow through you.
One way you can do that is to create a collage.
Have an Amazingly Creative Day,