Two weeks ago we started with our ‘You can Heal your Life’ checklist and finding 3-5 key themes that are prevalent in our lives, basically what our issues or blocks are. Last week we looked at Fear, Anger, & Possessiveness.
Let me know how your journaling and reading are going. Have you read any great books lately?
As a quick recap for those who are just joining us, if you go back to Aug 13, 2019 (2 weeks ago) we did a list of symptoms and where we hold our blocks in our body. Last week we started looking at some of those key themes, and we are continuing this week and into next week with more themes.
This week we will look at Resentment, Lack of Love, & Rejection/Abandonment and how we can work through those blocks in our life. Adding Tapping to our repertoire of healing techniques.
Tapping, also known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), is a powerful holistic healing technique that has been proven to effectively resolve a range of issues, including stress, anxiety, phobias, emotional disorders, chronic pain, addiction, weight control, and limiting beliefs, just to name a few.
The basic technique requires you to focus on the negative emotion at hand. While maintaining your mental focus on this issue, use your fingertips to tap the body’s meridian points. Tapping on these meridian points – while concentrating on accepting and resolving the negative emotion – will access your body’s energy, restoring it to a balanced state.
You may be wondering about these meridians. Put simply, energy circulates through your body along a specific network of channels. You can tap into this energy at any point along the system.
Tapping is simple and painless. It can be learned by anyone. And you can apply it to yourself, whenever you want, wherever you are. It gives you the power to heal yourself, putting control over your destiny back into your own hands.
Guided tapping will usually use 9 points on your body that you tap on as you repeat certain statements to move emotion through and out. The side of your hand, or karate chop point. The top of your head, between the eyebrows, the side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, under the lip, the collarbone, and your side (the bra strap point if your a women). Tapping gently and repeatedly on each of these points.
You will find some easy to follow tapping videos below.
See last week (Aug 20, 2019) for more information on Affirmations and Meditation.
Resentment is often defined as anger and indignation experienced as a result of unfair treatment, and it’s a relatively common emotion.
Those who experience resentment may have feelings of annoyance and shame, they might also harbor a desire for revenge. A person may become resentful as a result of a slight injustice or a grave one, perhaps harboring the same bitterness and anger over a small matter as they would over a more serious issue.
We have to remember that we do not ‘truly’ know why someone did what they did, and we make up stories in our heads as to why they did it. Try to see things from their perspective, this may help reduce resentment. Often it was not intentional or if it was they are coming from a place of internal issues within themselves.
Gratitude is something we will discuss more in a few weeks; but when feelings of resentment start to bubble up, try listing things you’re grateful for. Focusing on ways in which you are privileged or fortunate can make it more difficult for feelings of resentment, which often thrive on self-victimization, to take root.
Affirmations: I let go of my past, I am free and feeling good about myself. I dissolve all past feelings with ease. I am at peace with life. I lovingly forgive and release all of the past. LOve relaxes & releases all unlike itself.
Meditation: Releasing Resentment Guided Meditation
Tapping: Clearing Resentment - Tapping
Lack of Love
Science supports the idea that warmth and affection expressed by parents to their children results in life-long positive outcomes for those children. Higher self esteem, improved academic performance, better parent-child communication, and fewer psychological and behavior problems have been linked to this type of affection. On the other hand, children who do not have affectionate parents tend to have lower self esteem and to feel more alienated, hostile, aggressive, and antisocial.
Our feeling of lack of love comes from us not getting what we needed growing up. Often times parents have their own issues that they were working through (or not) and don’t have to give, what we need to thrive.
That does not mean all is lost, as adults we are perfectly capable, albeit difficult, to learn to love ourselves and find that love that we need in our lives.
First we have to acknowledge that we are worthy of love, and this can be the most difficult one of all to overcome because we have gone through a lifetime of not feeling loved.
This for me has taken a lot of journaling, a lot of getting back on the horse after failed relationships, talking things out and also finding things that I was good at so that I could feel that love and acceptance in at least one area of my life which allowed me to know it was possible and therefore know I could make it happen in other areas of my life.
What are you good at? Who acknowledges that for you? Lean into the fact that people acknowledge and see you, and even love you for at least one aspect of your life. Grow on that one thing by sharing more, increasing more people in your life who appreciate you.
Where people often go wrong with this is by doing things for others to the point that it is costing themselves. Having clear boundaries in your life is a true form of self love. Learning to say no, to things you do not want to do. You do not need to explain, no is a complete sentence.
Affirmations: I am totally connected in love. I love and approve of myself. I joyously release the past. Life supports and loves me. I am love. I am loving and lovable.
Meditation: Guided Meditation for Confidence, Self Love and a Better Self Image
Tapping: Allowing Love - Tapping
Rejection can occur in a variety of circumstances. Typically, rejection describes an instance of a person or entity pushing something or someone away or out. A person may reject, or refuse to accept a gift, for example.
Rejection most frequently refers to the feelings of shame, sadness, or grief you can feel when you are not accepted by others. You might feel rejected after a significant other ends a relationship. A child who has few or no friends may feel rejected by peers. You may have tried to sell an art piece and were rejected.
Rejection hurts, so take some time to process and feel your feelings instead of plastering a smile on your face and pretending everything is ok. Do not let your inner critic take over, do not make a laundry list of all the things that are wrong with you and why you were rejected. Again, we do not truly know what people are thinking so making things up is only harmful to ourselves.
Rejection is temporary, JK Rowling was rejected by12 publishers before she found one that would publish her Harry Potter series, can you imagine what would've happened if she had quit after her first rejection.
Rejection often is a matter of brushing ourselves off and trying again, do not give up just because you have experienced rejection.
Affirmations: My heart beats to the rhythm of love. The universe totally supports me. All is well. I now choose to create a life that is abundant.
Meditation: How To Overcome Rejection & Increase Self-Acceptance
Tapping: Tapping for Rejection and Abandonment
Please feel free to share in the Facebook group what has come up for you, what you have done to help remove those blocks and what books you have been reading.
Next week we will look at Controlling/Lack of Control, Frustration, and Anxiety while adding Binaural Beats to our bag of healing tricks.
Have and Amazingly Creative Day,