Trust is one of those things that we all talk about, but do we really know when we struggle with trust? Once identified, absolutely. So, how do we identify our trust issues?
If you are experiencing trust issues in a relationship (intimate, friend, work), you cannot make yourself vulnerable, which is essential to lasting success.
Overcoming trust issues is difficult, but not impossible. You have been hurt in the past, either in childhood or even into adulthood. Your lack of trust is held in place by fear, fear of being humiliated, betrayed, taken advantage of or manipulated in some way.
One of the reasons it is hard to let go of trust is that we go into situations with preconceived notions that we will be let down or hurt yet again. We are essentially setting ourselves up for failure, because what we look for we find.
Trust issues inevitably turn into self sabotage. When you don’t trust, you don’t connect with others. This builds a lack of self-confidence which...
Peace for everyone will be a bit different, but ideally it will be a place of comfort and relative quiet.
Finding time for ourselves is the most important first step to finding peace.
As women we often feel overwhelmed with all that we have to do. We feel we have no time for ourselves, but to be our best selves we need to find time for ourselves. To be able to continue to be there for others we need to find time to look after ourselves.
Below are 9 ways to bring more peace to your life.
1. Set boundaries for yourself.
Choose when it is a good time for you. You do not have to say yes to everything, if you struggle to say no. Start with “give me a day to think how I can fit this into my schedule” and then tell them a time that works for you.
2. Try to relax.
I know, this is much easier said than done. But, anytime you are feeling a bit anxious take some deep breaths. Slow deep breaths in and slow exhales out. This helps slow the heartbeat and lower blood pressure, and it...
Intuition operates best in a loving caring atmosphere.
1. Love and appreciate your body.
You may not yet be good at listening to your body, but your body is always listening to you.
Just like those affirmations we say to change our mindset, we also need to say them to our body. Your body hears everything you say and think about. So, what would you like your body to know?
2. Listen to your body (and do what it asks of you)
We listen to people that we love, we keep our minds on things that we love.
Learning to listen to your body clues is central to your intuitive wisdom.
Stop, breathe, and pay attention to your body. The more you do this the more you will recognize when something is different, or feels ‘off’.
3. Nourish your intuition sensitivity so you learn when you're hearing something.
Some ways you can learn to do this are:
We often hear the terms self-value (or self-worth) and self-esteem used interchangeably, but there is a very big difference between the two. To become your best self you need to have both, to build both together. Let’s take a look at what the differences are.
Self-esteem is the manner in which we evaluate ourselves. It is our internal assessment of our qualities and attributes. We have healthy self-esteem when what we think, feel, and believe about ourselves is honest and realistic. Building and maintaining healthy self-esteem depends on gathering evidence about what we are like as a person.
Self-value (aka self-worth) is the belief that you are loveable and valuable regardless of how you evaluate your traits. In this way, your self-esteem could hit rock bottom, yet you still hold onto the notion that you have innate worth. This is important. When you don’t feel good about yourself, this doesn’t mean, of course, that you are no longer valuable.
As humans we are conditioned to focus on the negative, this comes from our primitive self who in the face of saber tooth tigers needed to pay attention to the negative for survival. Unfortunately, that part of our brain is still a controlling factor and often hinders our ability to move forward in life as we do not believe in ourselves. We are quick to focus on the negative parts of ourselves whether real or not which keeps us from stepping out of our comfort zone.
We all want to feel good, and be our best selves. Carl Rogers, a psychologist, who in 1959 wrote ”a successful person is someone who experiences challenges and accepts failure and unhappiness as a part of life. They are open with others and generally have positive feelings about themselves”. “On the other hand, an unsuccessful person avoids challenges and refuses to accept the pain and unhappiness life produces. They are often defensive as a result of negative feelings about themselves, and they can't...
What is an Affirmation?
Affirmations are positive statements that can help us to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When we repeat them often, and believe in them, we can start to make positive changes.
Many think affirmations are unrealistic or “wishful thinking”, but like repetitive exercises that improve our physical health, affirmations are exercises for our minds and outlook. These positive mental repetitions can reprogram our thinking so that over time we begin to think and act differently.
Evidence suggests that affirmations can help us to perform better. According to researchers, spending just a few minutes on affirming our skills and best qualities before doing something we are nervous or anxious about, can calm our nerves, increase our confidence, and improve our chances of a successful outcome.
Affirmations have been shown to stimulate areas in our brains that make us more likely to affect changes in our health. Affirmations have...
Happiness is not a destination, it’s the journey. Sometimes life may feel like it’s getting a bit boring or mundane, you can shake that up by adding a little excitement.
Part of that journey is to live in the moment, and enjoy each step of the way. You will not be happier when you get to a certain point, whether it be losing weight, earning more money, or moving to another location. Happiness is a mindset you choose.
Being excited about your life helps you choose that mindset. Here are six ways to add excitement to your life.
Celebrate the small things,celebrate that compliment your boss finally gave you. Celebrate reaching a goal, celebrate everything. Life is so much more fun when we celebrate. It doesn’t have to be huge, maybe treat yourself to something, or use that fancy china for the bar b q tonight. Celebrate with a friend, hold a brag nite once a week and you can each brag about the things you each did.
Get Curious about things. Have you ever wondered how...
Have you ever found yourself in a position where change was inevitable? Kind of like now with what is going on in the world. You may have felt annoyed, frustrated, or even scared about how that part of your life was going to change. Maybe you felt trapped-the change was going to happen whether you liked it or not. No matter what type of change it can be scary to some degree.
You may have even felt out of sorts or stressed out for days, weeks, or even months. But what if you were to undergo a paradigm shift and begin to view change as opportunity? What if you could reach out and embrace change with open arms?
Think of the change a caterpillar goes through to become a butterfly and embrace change.
Read on for some mind-expanding, eye-opening ways to regard change as opportunity in your life:
Loving yourself might sound a little odd, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t critical. The more you love yourself, the better you’ll take care of yourself. That impacts your health, longevity, self-esteem, self-confidence, and success.
When you love yourself, you make yourself a priority. You deserve nothing less.
As women we are often told to calm down, don’t get angry, or to be quiet. Meanwhile men are encouraged to show their power and anger. Anger is considered a power emotion. Women may be allowed to show anger with their children, but not their husbands. Men can show anger with anyone because they hold the power. Children can only show their anger to their dolls. This is a power matrix.
Unhealthy ways we often deal with anger is to stuff our emotions down, eat, drink, use another substance to take away our feelings. When we are unable to express our emotions, even those negative emotions they pop up in other ways.
Anger will come bubbling up in unexpected ways
But, what if we changed that and we all could show ‘Healthy’ anger. If we were allowed to voice our upset, frustration, and pain.
Healthy anger does not allow for losing control,...